December 27th, 2007

antarctica

"Partner"

How do folks feel about hetero couples using the term "partner" for each other?

I had never felt this was a problem but was recently alerted to the opinion that it's an offensive appropriation as opposed to a show of solidarity. As a queer chick in a hetero relationship with a queer dude, I sometimes use 'partner' because it's a way of challenging the traditional hetero model that says his gender and our legal status are the most important things to label about him. Then again, I can empathize with folks who feel that since 'partner' was born of necessity due to discrimination against same-sex couples, hetero allies (or queers in hetero relationships) should respectfully use the terms that are already established as part of their privilege. Just wondering where people fall on this one.