September 30th, 2004

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blogging on the Marriage Equality Express

As you probably know from all the posting I have done about it, I'm preparing to go on the Marriage Equality Express, which takes off on Monday, October 4th. I've created a new blog, engagedinaction,</span> where I will chronicle my experiences as we make our way across the country. You are invited to read along! Check out the schedule to see if we'll be stopping in your city.

(x-posted in queeractivism,</span> lesbian, postqueer, queer_marriage,</span> gay_marriage & political_queer -- sorry, if you are seeing this more than once )

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more questions on Tomboy clothing

Two questions here.

One is regarding a black tie fundraiser. I love, love, love any excuse to wear a tux (especially tails!) but I suspect it's not in my best interest + I want to feel comfy & have people feel comfy with me. Dresses are out obviously and so are women's elegant pants...any suggestions?

Part rwo.

ok. I need suggestions on fashion diversity for day to day. I've had this strange repetitive habit - when I like something I want to wear it *everyday* (I'm the same way about food)

so, I really like the black jeans (black is my fave color to wear, I find it energizing, never depressing - the color of change!)

I like the button up shirts over t-shirt - looks good - it's comfy.

BUT I have mostly Black button up shirts (different fabrics - velvet, cotton, liteweight something or other). I don't want to look like I'm wearing the samething everyday...what can I do?

I have nice looking black pullovers Perhaps I'll just wear plain black everyday, but it does seem dull.

Maybe simply get more shirts but I don't have much extra cash.
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more on oregon's measure 36

Today, an endorsement from the Oregonian ....

Don't scar Oregon Constitution
A vote for Measure 36 sends gays, lesbians, their parents and children the message that they are lesser Oregonians
Thursday, September 30, 2004


Last March, the Multnomah County Board of Commissioners could have moved slowly, democratically, at the speed of enlightenment.

They could have opened the doors to full debate on gay marriage even as they showed their fidelity to the Oregon Constitution. They could have trusted that its fierce absolutes -- its equal protections for gays and lesbians -- would clinch their case in the conscience of Oregonians.

Instead the commissioners quashed dissent. They hastened to issue marriage licenses to gay and lesbian couples. In blowing off the democratic process, the commissioners did terrible damage. They sowed the wind. And our state is now reaping the whirlwind, Measure 36.

Although its effects are not entirely clear, it could erode or diminish protections for gays and lesbians.

This measure would add a kind of asterisk to the Oregon Constitution: Oh, by the way. Marriage is only for one man and one woman. That may sound innocuous, but in the evolution toward equality, this amendment is an attempt to push our state backward, and smother the future position of an Oregon minority.

That's disturbing, no matter what your opinion is of gays marrying.

We have argued that equal protection for gays and lesbians may not require marriage, and that civil unions could provide equal protections. But we think the debate in Oregon is far from over.

It shouldn't stop here.

It's in the nature of progress that we don't always know where it will take us. Over the past decade, public opinion has evolved rapidly on gay rights. Already, younger Americans are far more supportive than older ones are.

Measure 36 wouldn't just lock down the debate as of this moment. It's an attempt to lock it down for years, and even generations. That's sad, mean-spirited and just plain wrong.

It simply isn't true that marriage has been unchanged for millennia. Marriage has evolved with fuller equality for women, including the right of wives to own property and the right for both spouses to divorce.

Whether Measure 36 would actually scale back equal protections for gays and lesbians or have largely symbolic effects, we don't know. But even the symbolic effects are harmful ones.

Many gays and lesbians in our state already feel excluded. The passage of Measure 36 would make that official.

It would declare that gays and lesbians and their families are secondary, and their protections are inferior. That takes us in the wrong direction.

If you could watch the Oregon Constitution evolve, in a time-lapsed photograph, you would see an ever-expanding definition of who is "us." Who is considered fully human? Who is entitled to vote, serve in the militia, run for office, claim the rights of a citizen?

In 1857, framers of the Oregon Constitution took it largely for granted that only white males would have those privileges. Had you had eavesdropped on them, in fact, you would have heard them arguing about whether "white" was white enough. Many slaves and ex-slaves were virtually white.

The framers' prejudices are sprinkled throughout that first Constitution, as in: "No Negro, Chinaman or Mulatto shall have the right of suffrage." So we're not about to argue that the document is pristine, and that's it never been defaced before. It's had plenty of ugly blotches. Surely, in 2004, we know enough to avoid another one.

Measure 36 might not succeed in ratcheting down the solemn protections that the Oregon Constitution affords, but it's an attempt to keep gays and lesbians in their place -- in the shadows of our communities.

We think their place is in Oregon, side by side with the rest of us, and fully protected by the Oregon Constitution. Vote "No" on Measure 36.