July 16th, 2004


Is there anything you can do to help???

       It's amazing how much we all take for granted!  In the past I've focused the majority of my attention on the many things I don't have, but the events of the past few months have given me a great deal of appreciation for the things that I DO.
       I wouldn't call my family wealthy per se.  My mom and I have struggled a bit financially since my father past away, but when it comes to the things that REALLY matter (i.e. unconditional love and support), my family is as rich as they come.  Some kids aren't so lucky.
       One such unfortunate is the woman I'm in love with.  I can't imagine anything more painful than what she's going through right now.  She was outed to her parents a few days ago when they happened upon an e-mail.   Consequently, they forbade her to have any contact with me and informed her that they would not be sending her back to Mount Holyoke College in the Fall.  According to them, her education is no longer worth $40,000/year.  I disagree.  She's already had such a positive affect on her piece of the world.  I can't speak for everyone else who knows her, but meeting her, befriending her, falling in love with her, and, now, losing her has inspired me to be a better person.  By sending her back, they would be supporting their daughter, the same wonderful woman she was before she got involved with me... They would be investing in the future of so many lives, because I am sure without a doubt in my mind that she will take full advantage of all MHC has to offer her and will make great strides in the field of science.
       That said, she is pretty much trapped in a lose-lose situation in which she is forced to chose between two evils (losing her family's support, which probably wouldn't last forever ... or lying to her heart and letting go of her lifelong dream to graduate from Mount Holyoke and find a cure for Alzheimer's disease).  I will be here if she ever needs me ... I'm not going anywhere, but if she decides to continue molding herself for her family's love and acceptance, there's not much I can do.  My main concern is for her happiness and well-being.  If she decides to take the road less traveled and wants to go back to Mount Holyoke College, I'd like her to be able to.  The Jolene Fund is available to MHC students who's parents have cut them off financially because of their sexual orientation, but even if the whole thing went to her she still wouldn't have anywhere near enough to pay for a whole year's tuition.  She is not the only one going through this, I'm sure.
       Is there anything you can possibly do to help me raise more money for Amy and/or the Jolene Fund?  I'm down on my knees...

Yours truly,
Caitlin Murphy (19)

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It is an egregious mistake to pretend that all GLBT families are alike and that legal civil marriage will cure their ills. And the hard truth is that same-sex marriage will not to be applied to or experienced "equally" by all GLBT people.

If the GLBT movement is simply looking for equality under the law — surely a modest and estimable goal — why do the particular circumstances of poor GLBT people even matter? What does it matter that some people might choose to live outside the traditional-marriage arrangement? Because the rhetoric of the GLBT movement is that same-sex marriage is essential for the health and welfare of GLBT families. But the very way they have framed the debate, and the ways in which they have lobbied and organized this fight, has ensured that only the most traditional, and the most middle- and upper-class, of gay families will reap the lion’s share of the benefits.

Michael Bronski, in the Boston Phoenix this week. (Emphasis mine.) Worth a read. I'd be interested in people's comments.