June 5th, 2004

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Sex questions

I'm writing an article/essay on (not certain how to word this yet) the aspect of sexuality that gets aroused by humiliation & degradation of self or others.

I like the named authors but am finding something lacking that I can't put my finger on (no play on words intended
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I'm writing an article/essay on (not certain how to word this yet) the aspect of sexuality that gets aroused by humiliation & degradation of self or others.

I like the named authors but am finding something lacking that I can't put my finger on (no play on words intended <:)

I'm sex positive, queer positive, enjoy what ever you do, even if bad shit happens and I'm having trouble finding books, articles, films or even real life examples of positive examples of sexual healing/sex after abuse or rape that don't fall into three categories.

I'm also trying to find sources that look at sexual healing sources that address issues of preference, race/ race relations, class, age/gender differences & disability differences.

#1. Queer stuff. Patrick Califia's work comes to mind. It's indirect that abuse is abuse and rape is rape, unless someone dies. I'm hoping I'm wrong, but I can't find any books (within a S/M frame that deal directly with this.

#2. "70's feminist type stuff. <u>The Courage to Heal</u> is a good example. It's direct but seems a bit damning in Victim/Survivor dualism.

#3. Clinical stuff. Healing & direct about events & healing,but very dry. Missing lust & passion. Very tied up in x-tian values (imho). Also seems damning in that once hurt someone's identity is that.

Any reading/film suggestions are appreciated.
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