January 9th, 2004


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from Normal by Amy Bloom, on crossdressing in marriages:

There is no innate grasp of female friendship, of the female insistence on relatedness, of the female tradition of support and accommodation for one's partner and of giving precedence to the relationship overall. If you believe that these characteristics are more common to women than to men, these men do not embody them; if you don't believe it, they would argue with you. If there weren't that kind of understanding,. that kind of empathy and female bonding, rather than accessories and tapes on how to walk in heels, these guys would be unable to ask their wives to go through this crossdressing life with them, and everyone, husbands and wives, knows it. They know that if the woman insisted on wearing three-piece suits or baseball uniforms in public, and asked their husbands to accept hairy legs, hairy underarms, and jockstraps as part of their sex life, the husbands would not be rushing off to join spousal support groups while cheerfully spending the family's money on bespoke suits and expensive glue-on facial hair. The marriages would be over

p. 96

It's interesting. For a writer, Bloom has a lot of gay characters and I don't mean stock gay stereotypes. I mean subtle, nuanced, frequent queer subjectivities. So I always wondered if she was a lesbian herself or had gay kids or something cause I don't know any straight writers who frequently and skillfully use GLBTQ characters.

& Accroding to Bloom, in this Advocate interview, she has a lesbian partner (after a 30 year marriage) and has always identified as bi.

Surprising then in reading Normal to see her stereotypes regarding FTM transsexuals. She thought they would be shameful women-hating women, full of depression and self-loathing. For a member of the queer community who delves into queer lives in subtle&interesting ways, her admitted initial views of the FTM community and female desire for masculinity--in any form, I'd say, at this point--seems immature and confounding.

Anyone else read this book? The above excerpt I just found thought provoking.
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Hello Peeps,

I am posting this to the community because it deals with identity albeit through the lens of "race." Perhaps you have heard about the DNA testing that can trace "where you come from"? This is an article that looks at that, although the language and the concerns are all wrong and even misguided. People are looking at this testing as defining what "race" you are -- as if "race" is biological(!).

I think this has many implications for GBLT folks as well especially as our climates change to include _____-identified folks, bois who don't have peni, bi-sexual people who have to defend themselves when in relationships of the opposite-sex, transgendered issues as well as transsexual. ... or maybe my brief analysis at the end does that -- I dunno.

I expect this to ruffle some feathers and maybe cause some very strong reactions. I only ask that folks remember I am as human as you are and if you scratch me and I bleed, I won't have the grace to give you a second chance. That said,

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