October 29th, 2003

cat & schmate, glitterville

A very specific kind of passing

For those of you queer femme bio-chix who are long-term (maybe monogamously) involved with man-creatures--how do you handle assumptions about your supposed heterosexuality?

I never know how to respond when people ask me if I "have a boyfriend." Nevermind my problems with this strange phrase (yes, I have a boyfriend...I keep him in a jar under the sink?), my bigger conundrum is...how do I lead the questioner to understand that their implied heterosexism is annoying without totally alienating them?

I usually stumble out something smooth like, "Um, uh, oh, er, yeah." Or, on more eloquent days, "I have a partner, yes."

Ideas?

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